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Disclaimer: As usual, what is written below is my own personal opinion, and may vary from yours. It doesn’t mean to say that either is correct or incorrect, that’s what makes us all Humans.
I’ve written this because of how many people make assumptions about those who prefer to spend time alone, I am 1 of those people.
Just because someone likes to be alone, does not mean they are up to no good, granted, some may, but from my experience, only a very low number.
Many times, when I’ve been travelling on public transport, or even just walking alone, some people feel it’s
THEIR RIGHT
To get close and talk to me.
This creates more anxiety for me, and sometimes causes me to get emotional.
Occasionally I would even get furious and mouth off at people, which has gotten me into trouble.
Honestly, if people just left others alone, the world would be a much better place.
We are all
HUMAN BEINGS,
&
Very
Uniquely,
Individualistic,
People.
Not everyone is comfortable talking to others, especially those they do not know.
Even at work, I get nervous around others.
A reason why I prefer being alone is because of my Social Anxiety, & being treated badly growing up.
In regards to being Single:
Many people have abused me for never entering relationships.
Honestly, I’m still way too hung up on the amazing Claire Baire (CB).
No one has come 20% close to how I feel about her, & I would feel as though I would be cheating on CB.
Because I let her down, I’m now punishing myself, by refraining from any sort of relationship, mainly because I’m scared of hurting someone else, or being hurt by them.
When I say hurt, I mean ending the relationship, either way.
I’m a human being, just like all you winners, I get hurt, as we all do.
The only relationship I will enter now, MUST be non physical and both parties sign written agreements.
FYI: I’m Asexual.
For those who don’t know, from 6-14, I was molested by an older relative, this caused major trust issues for me. I was so ashamed of what was going: In those days, males were not victims, only the assailants. Therefore, I was unable to be 100000000000% honest with the most I should have trusted the most in my life, Yes, CB.
If I couldn’t be totally open nd honest with her about this, then if our relationship developed, it would not have been a 1000000000000% Trusting & Communicative 1.
I feel a reason why she ended things, was because I became distant with her.
As this is almost 40 years ago, I’m only guessing.
I also have other theories, which currently, I’m unable to prove.
My point of writing this blog, is to hopefully educate you all, and hopefully accept what I’ve written.
Here is some advice:
If you see someone sitting or walking alone, ask permission to sit and/or talk with them, because anyone who does not ask me from here on in, will be given a mouthful of abuse and possible contacting my Legal Representative too.
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