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I’d like to begin by acknowledging the Traditional Owners of the land on which we meet today. I would also like to pay my respects to Elders past, present and emerging.
Disclaimer: As usual, what is written below is my own personal opinion, and may vary from yours. It doesn’t mean to say that either is correct or incorrect, that’s what makes us all Humans.
Many people assume we are all social butterflies and enjoy being around others.
Not true, some, like me, get nervous around others, even those we know can be a difficult experience.
When my Social Anxiety started, I’m not entirely sure, but think it was when I was a minor.
When I was 6 years young, my nightmare began, something which still haunts me today, 51 years later.
Due to my anxiety, when talking to people in person, get nervous, therefore, ,unable to look most in the eyes.
This is NOT a sign of being dishonest, it’s just because I get nervous, however, many will make their assumptions about me.
Another issue, because of my anxiety, I stutter and/or mumble, and at times speak very fast.
These have affected my job potentials as many potential employers are very vain, instead of listening and having compassion.
Social Anxiety also causes depression too, and also for me,
MAJOR TRUST ISSUES too.
You may be wondering how my Social Anxiety also got worse:
In 1 Word:
BULLYING.
Many people bully those they perceive to be weak, because most bullies are weak and want to feel:
POWERFUL,
Guess What?
THEY ARE NOT.
I would like to say this to every winner reading this today:
When you speak negative words to others, whether you mean them or not, can affect the person.
Therefore, please stop and think before saying anything to anyone.
I also get nervous when people feel they can touch me without asking, this includes shaking hands, hugging, or pashing.
I abhor being touched by anybody.
Recently, I was alighting from a train at Laverton, when a person boarding, more like barging, on, decided to touch me.
I went off my brain at them, because they did not allow me room to alight.
I started shaking and crying and was barely able to board the next mode of transport.
Here is an idea:
“Think about how YOU WOULD FEEL if someone said the same words to YOU.”
I’m sure you would feel discouraged, anxious, depressed, suicidal, and above all Angry and Upset.
Words are Powerful.
My best advice to all:
“Think Before You Speak OR Do Anything.”
Please never make assumptions about others, especially those you know nothing or very little about.
Many of us who suffer Social Anxiety, therefore keep our lives private.
Here is an example of a recent event for me:
“I told a friend????? About being suicidal whilst off work. This person then told my Team Leader, who spoke to me, and I thought my explanation had been accepted and nothing further would occur. However, not long after, I was advised about a serious meeting which questioned my performance. Again I explained, however, this was not accepted and I was terminated. I honestly feel this meeting occurred because of me telling someone how I was feeling”
This will never occur again, because I’m afraid it may be taken the wrong way.
When someone asks me how I am?
My Response:
“I’m Fine, Thanks For Asking.”
I hope this blog helps educate you all.
For anyone who suffers from Social Anxiety or any other type of Mental health issues are welcome to email me at:
mailto:melscustomisedcandles@gmail.com
I offer a free 30 minute Zoom Call, which is not recorded and everything told to me remains private and confidential.
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