I’m sick to death of people refusing to abide by my Boundaries.

I will say: 99% are males because most see women or others as a challenge.

Well, not with me, if I say I’m not interested,





By My Wishes.

My policy now:

Refuse to respect me,

Instant Blocking.

Males need to start listening and respecting others.

Respect is a 2-Way Street.

You expect Me & Others to Respect You,


You need to Respect others.

This includes using a person’s preferred Name, Pronouns etc.

Life Is Way Too Short.

These are my Boundaries:

  1. I have nil interest in anything remotely intimate, unless you are a female, willing to pay for my surgery, please do not try.
  2. I do not respond to 1 word/emoji/gif messages, nor answer unarranged calls either. If you want a response, please string together a sentence. Please personalise the message too, otherwise, I will ignore you.
  3. Never call me anything derogatory: Have Respect.
  4. Treat Me Like a Human Being.
  5. NEVER ask what is in my pants.
  6. NEVER ask my real name: My Real Name is Melissa Jensen.
  7. Respect works 2 ways: You respect me and my boundaries, I’ll respect yours.
  9. Offenders to the above WILL Be Blocked, Named and Shamed.
  10. Transphobia and/or Homophobia WILL NOT BE TOLERATED.
  11. If you accuse me of something, you better have concrete proof, otherwise I will contact my friends in Law Enforcement






This blog has been inspired by recent uneducated posts and comments.

As a Transgender person, I’m hoping to dispel some of those myths.

I knew at age 4 I was a gurl, however, unable to act on these feelings, as 1970, Australia was very traditional.

I was forced to act like a male.

How I reached 18, I’m mystified.

Many people feel when we transition, we will still be the same person on the inside, this is partly correct, as we transition, so our external body, matches our internal body.

Not every Transgender wants surgery, but does not make them any less of a Worthy Human Being.

Another thing, people have a big negativity towards us using the bathrooms of our preferred gender.

To date, I have never heard of an genuine Transgender doing anything illegal in the bathroom of their preferred gender.

We only want to be able to do our business, wash our hands etc, then leave.

In the 1980’s I was a Parcel Delivery Driver in Sydney CBD.

I needed to use the male bathroom of a very well-known and popular office/retail block. I was still a male then.

As I entered saw another male using the urinal, however, within seconds he started making noises to gain my attention, then when he did, he showed me his erection.

I finished quickly and left without washing my hands.

When I got to my van, I was shaking and crying, however, stayed strong as my father would constantly tell me males do not show their emotions.

I had water in the van and gave my hands a quick wash before I continued making my deliveries. I never told anybody about this, because I was ashamed.

Since transitioning to female, I have never seen or heard anyone trying to put the hard word on any other female.

Gender Identity & Sexual Orientation are 2 very separate things.

Just because someone transitions from Male to Female, or Female to Male, does not mean they will date those of their assigned birth gender.

In the 1990’s before I 1st went on hormones; I was a Bus Driver & had passengers misgendering me.

Below is a secret, I have kept hidden for many years:

In 1981, when I was viciously assaulted & left to die, I wanted to die because at least it would have saved everyone the misery have me around. Honestly, even today many times I have felt this way.

Just because someone is Transgender or a member of the LGBTIQA+ Community, does not mean we are criminals.

Honestly, if employers gave everyone more of a chance, maybe people would not seek inventive ways to survive.

Every single Human Winner deserves to feel like a Worthy Tax Paying, Honest Citizen.

I ask everyone reading this:

Unless someone is committing criminal offences, with concrete evidence, please do not assume anything.

I’m supposed to accept people at face value, yet others rarely do for me.

To learn more about me and my Tragic Life, you are all welcome to purchase Mark’s Tragic Life


🏨🏨🏨 Zetland, NSW, Australia

Β© Mel’s Customised Candles Melbourne, Australia, 2021

Disclaimer: As usual, what is written below is my own personal opinion, and may vary from yours. It doesn’t mean to say that either is correct or incorrect, that’s what makes us all Humans.

Now Australia has reopened, I highly recommend staying here as it is close to Sydney Airport, and the CBD. Just off Southern Cross Drive.

I stayed here in 2013 for around 14 nights.

I had a 1 bedroom suite which was amazing.

Not sure what floor I was on, but was high up.

The kitchen was great, had a microwave, fridge, stove, utensils.

Bathroom: Bath, Shower, Washing Machine & Dryer.

Lounge area had a tv, dvd player, chairs and table.

Secure Car Parking. I think then, was extra $25 per day.

As it’s 8 years ago, unsure about any deliveries.

Easy drive from Sydney Airport, almost to anywhere.

If I remember correctly, it’s only a short walk to public transport.

Looking towards Sydney CBD.
Looking Towards Redfern.
Sydney CBD, can you spot Sydney Tower?
Southern Cross Drive, looking towards Mascot Airport.
Another Sunrise Pic.
Blue Lines are closest Bus Routes.

Below are the bus routes close by, but I encourage you to do research prior to deciding.

I highly recommend staying here, once restrictions ease and the suites have reopened.

PARENTS. β˜•πŸ˜ŽπŸ˜πŸ°πŸ€©πŸ₯°πŸ‘¨β€πŸ‘©β€πŸ‘§β€πŸ‘¦πŸ‘­πŸ‘¬πŸ‘«πŸ’πŸ’‘πŸ’žπŸ’–πŸ’πŸ’˜πŸ’ŸπŸ’€πŸ‘ πŸ₯Ώβ›‘

An example of a parent controlling their offspring is an episode of Hannah Montana, Season 2 Episode 13, where her father refuses to let her travel by herself.

As usual, what is written below is my personal opinion.


How many of you believed from a young age, about:

Santa Claus (Father Christmas),

Easter Bunny,

Tooth Fairy,

Bedroom Monsters,

And many others, where your parents tell you these lies.

If parents will lie to their very young offspring, then why wouldn’t they lie about other things when they are older?

Many Parents will also make assumptions about others and will twist the truth to suit their needs.

This has happened to me several times in my existence, which has now caused me to have trust issues, but also be more cautious too.

What resonates most with me is the TV show: “Mother & Son, Season 2, Episode titled The Promotion.” Although most episodes resonate with me. Maggie reminds me so much of my late father.

An example of a toxic parent is the movie: ” Ma & Pa Kettle, Back On The Farm.”

The following is my own personal opinion.

I’ve found many parents will not accept their offspring have grown up.

Once someone reaches 16, they should be allowed to start making their own decisions, whether good or bad, but that’s how we learn.

I will advise them to be safe though.

Never meet someone alone, or in private the 1st few times, always meet in public, with CCTV prevalent & support people watching too. Demand Written Agreements too, to keep everyone safe.

N.B. I never allow “In Person” Meets, unless there is a written signed agreement. I have major trust issues, hence my demand for WSA’s. I never request personal information, i.e Residential address, workplace, or contact details, vehicle details, only 1 social media contact to continue chatting.

Honestly, before meeting, I prefer to video chat several times.

I’ve also found many parents will lie, to manipulate their offspring, sometimes guilt them too. Many are possessive, even when their offspring are legal adults.

Please don’t get me wrong: Its nice, but sometimes, being overprotective, can smother or restrict an offspring, and they will rebel, or worse.

I’ve seen it happen.

Overprotective, to me, is another way of controlling an Offspring.

Now, I’ve never been lucky enough to become a parent, that choice was taken away when I was 16.

But, as an outsider, looking in, I have seen too many offspring become shy, withdrawn and frightened to do anything against their parents wishes.

I was the same way growing up.
My father controlled me right up until he died. I was 46.

My father stopped me from being happy.
Parents think they are acting in their offsprings best interests,

You know what,

No, they are selfish and acting in

THEIR PERCIEVED best interests, because they don’t trust their offspring making the correct decisions.

Too many Parents are Control Freaks, Toxic, Vain, Snobbish & should listen to their offspring.

And accept them for who they truly are, not some sort of “Mini Me” version.

I know many of you will get angry and upset with me, because of this post, but I don’t care, because what is written above, is from my personal observations over the years.

I failed my parents, but worst of all, Failed the only person who counts in MY existence


Finally: Please Let Them Beeeeeeeeeeee

πŸ¨πŸ¦˜πŸš™πŸ–πŸ₯‚πŸ³β€πŸŒˆπŸ³β€πŸŒˆπŸ³β€πŸŒˆπŸ³β€πŸŒˆπŸ¨πŸ¨πŸ¨πŸ¨πŸ©πŸ©πŸ°πŸ°πŸŒ‡πŸŒ…πŸŒ„πŸŒƒπŸŒβ›Ίβ›²πŸ§³πŸ§³πŸͺ‘πŸ›πŸ›‹πŸ›πŸšΏπŸ§½πŸ§΄πŸͺ’πŸš½πŸ§― Warners Bay, NSW, Australia

Β© Mel’s Customised Candles Melbourne, Australia, 2021

Disclaimer: As usual, what is written below is my own personal opinion, and may vary from yours. It doesn’t mean to say that either is correct or incorrect, that’s what makes us all Humans.

Please check out the photos below, all taken by Yours Truly.

As promised this is the first blog about places I’ve stayed or visited.

As The world is now opening up, if anyone plans to visit the Newcastle/Hunter Valley Region of Australia, I highly recommend staying here.

1st up, I have not received any incentive to post this blog, my reason for posting is to educate.

In 2014, I stayed at this amazing hotel twice.

Both times, I was treated well by the staff.

The rooms are spacious, with tea and coffee making facilities.

View Towards the Mountains.

Bistro, which is in front of the delivery truck, had affordable, top quality food.

As I have not stayed there in over 7 Years, I’m unable to give a recent review.

There is a take away (Take Out) Bottle Shop.

Location is a short drive from the M1 Motorway from Sydney.

There is plenty to do in the region:

Belmont, Broadmeadow, Cardiff, Caves Beach, Glendale, Hunter Valley, Nelson Bay, Newcastle, New Lambton, Swansea, Williamtown, are all easy drives and each has amazing Tourist attractions or are Transport hubs.

I would highly recommend making this hotel your base.

All of the photos are from both stays.

Please check out their website to find out more up to date information.


I also provided a review on Google too, everyone is welcome to check it out and WATB responded too.

Who knows when you stay here, you may bump into me as I plan to stay once lockdowns are over, despite my apprehensions.

N.B. There are several people in this region who strongly dislike me, why I have no idea as I have never met them. This is also the area where “Chris” resided during our short lived association.

πŸ€ΆπŸŽ„πŸŽ…πŸ•―πŸ¨πŸ¦˜πŸš‹ Christmas 2023 Layby Offer

Have you thought about Christmas 2023 yet?

You can cancel your order, with a full refund, by August 31st, 2023.

1st 10,000 to pay in full, of at least 10 candles, will receive 2 free bonuses:

Wick Trimmer,

Mel’s 13 eNovel Bundle. Age 18+ Only.

All Natural Ingredients, Non-Toxic

Why not start now.

Starting now, will ease your financial and gift thinking stress.

By paying $5 AUD per week, by end of August, 2023, you should have paid for 8 candles. However, you can pay more each week if you so choose.

Monthly Payment statements will be emailed to each customer.

You choose 2 colours & scents per candle. Base will be red or green, same with top. Red & Green colours are free.

Each time we have enough bulk funds, we will bulk buy our raw materials.

Payments are electronic only to my Wise Multi Currency Account:


We envisage sending all completed orders by early-mid November. Delivery/Shipping costs may be additional.

Candle orders will not be required until September.

You can cancel anytime.


Please send us an email for more information.


Please never believe everything you are told, or see, unless a written, signed



Always conduct your own research.

Recently I heard of a “Friend” who had been convicted of a crime.

I conducted my own research and was absolutely horrified at what I discovered.

I have since blocked both accounts.

Found out the person had at least 14 profiles.

My point of writing this blog is to help you all stay safe.

By conducting research, you should obtain all the facts.


πŸ˜πŸ‡πŸ¦œπŸ˜ŽπŸ’πŸ˜›πŸ•πŸš˜πŸŒžβ›±πŸ”₯🌈🌈🌈True Friends.

Will always be there for each other.

Will never say anything bad publicly.

Here’s a real story:

March 2015, A friend was overseas. They posted about their 2 favourite singers on their social media page.

Their “Best Friends” made negative comments. I supported this friend, because they are able to decide for themselves.

These “Best Friends” were not true friends, because had they had been, would have saved their negativity and told their friend privately.

I feel, because I was supportive, these “BF’s” conspired to get rid of me, which happened less than 2 weeks later.

Someone told my “Friend” a vicious lie, they believed it, but in 2018, they spread that lie online.

We never met or spoke, and I have

Written, Legal, Official Proof, that it was a lie.

I based “Chris” on the above friend, who was also the inspiration behind my 1st novel


True Friends, Will Always:

Be Supportive of decisions our TF’s make, no matter how they feel personally.

Will be there during sad times.

Will advise without making it like a guilt trip.

Accept other people in each others lives.

Advise best they can.

Listen to each other too, no matter how boring or mundane the subject.

They are there when we are sick or injured.

I’ve had 2 Great True Friends since 1987. I won’t reveal their names, just initials: AG & KS.

Both have helped keep me grounded and in 2018, AG stopped me from committing suicide.

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