TRANSGENDERS.

MEL’S CUSTOMISED CANDLES

ABN 61902818410

332 LEAKES ROAD, TRUGANINA, 

VICTORIA, AUSTRALIA, 3029.

This blog has been inspired by recent uneducated posts and comments.

As a Transgender person, I’m hoping to dispel some of those myths.

I reveal a very dark secret about myself too.

I knew at age 4 I was a gurl, however, unable to act on these feelings, as 1970, Australia was very traditional.

I was forced to act like a male.

How I reached 18, I’m mystified.

Many people feel when we transition, we will still be the same person on the inside, this is partly correct, as we transition, so our external body, matches our internal body.

The younger a person starts hormones, the better. For M2F, this may alleviate the need to shave their face daily.

As I transitioned later, I still need to shave my face at least twice per week.

Many people have assumed hormones will have the desired effect immediately. This is false, as it could take many weeks or months before anything noticable occurs.

I’ve had arguments about this, but in time, hormones cause fluid release to dry up.

Not every Transgender wants surgery, but does not make them any less of a Worthy Human Being.

Another thing, people have a big negativity towards us using the bathrooms of our preferred gender.

To date, I have never heard of any genuine Transgender doing anything illegal in the bathroom of their preferred gender.

We only want to be able to do our business, wash our hands etc, then leave.

In the 1980’s I was a Parcel Delivery Driver in Sydney CBD. 

I needed to use the male bathroom of a very well-known and popular office/retail block. 

As I entered saw another male using the urinal, however, within seconds he started making noises to gain my attention, then when he did, he showed me his erection.

I finished quickly and left without washing my hands.

When I got to my van, I was shaking and crying, however, stayed strong as my father would constantly tell me males do not show their emotions.

I had water in the van and gave my hands a quick wash before I continued making my deliveries. I never told anybody about this because I was ashamed.

Since transitioning to female, I have never seen or heard anyone trying to put the hard word on any other female.

Gender Identity & Sexual Orientation are 2 very separate things.

Just because someone transitions from Male to Female, or Female to Male, does not mean they will date those of their (Incorrectly) assigned birth gender.

In the 1990’s before I 1st went on hormones; I was a Bus Driver & had passengers misgendering me.

Below is a secret, I have kept hidden for many years:

In 1981, when I was viciously assaulted & left to die, I wanted to because at least it would have saved everyone the misery of having me around. Honestly, even today many times I have felt this way.

Just because someone is Transgender or a member of the LGBTIQA+ Community, does not mean we are criminals. 

Honestly, if employers gave everyone more of a chance, maybe people would not seek inventive ways to survive.

Every single Human Winner deserves to feel like a Worthy Tax Paying, Honest Citizen.

I ask everyone reading this:

Unless someone is committing criminal offences, with concrete evidence, please do not assume anything.

I’m supposed to accept people at face value, yet others rarely do for me.

To learn more about me and my Tragic Life, you are all welcome to purchase Mark’s Tragic Life

https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/1130460

What sickens me the most, is people will read between the lines when I write something. 

In 2015/18, someone did just that, then spread vicious, vile lies about me online.

This person was Transgender too, which made this much worse.

FYI: I have legal, written proof they are lies and have an extra safety layer in place.

Finally, instead of making assumptions about someone, whether they are “Normal” whatever that is, or a member of the LGBTIQA+ Community, I suggest:

ASK QUESTIONS TO CLARIFY, BECAUSE EDUCATION IS THE QUAY TO KNOWLEDGE.