I’d like to begin by acknowledging the Traditional Owners of the land on which we meet today. I would also like to pay my respects to Elders past, present and emerging.
Disclaimer: As usual, what is written below is my own personal opinion, and may vary from yours. It doesn’t mean to say that either is correct or incorrect, that’s what makes us all Humans.
“I’M A WORTHY,SUCCESSFUL, VALUED WINNER, WHO DESERVES TO LIVE A HAPPY, HEALTHY, SAFE, REWARDING, STREE FREE LIFE.”
Many people will make assumptions about others, without asking questions first.
These assumptions have gotten many people killed in the past.
I’ve been the victim of people making assumptions about me, based on whatever reasons, usually either my looks, innocent questions or others like me from the past.
Honestly, not many people know the complete truth about me, especially about all the trauma I suffered growing up.
Assuming something about someone is a Toxic Trait, which I do not agree with.
Please think of this:
“How Would YOU Feel Is Someone Made Assumptions About YOU?”
My Favourite Quote is:
Here are some examples of people making assumptions:
When you ask them a question, or just talk to them, sometimes, they don’t hear. Quite often, when I’m in deep thought, will block out all noises.
Another, and this happened to me several years ago, I was waiting for a train, when someone asked me a question, I shook my head. The person got abusive because I didn’t use any verbal communication. I had a sore throat and barely able to speak. I sat there and cried.
Driving behind a Heavy Vehicle, where you are unable to see ahead. Sometimes, and this has happened to me, someone is playing games, by driving very slowly and not allowing the HV to pass them.
Here is a story from my Bus Driving Days: I was departing a stop 1 day, looked in my mirrors, it seemed clear and I proceeded to move off, when there was a bang. I looked to see a pushbike courier had collided with my bus. This person alleged I did not look in my mirrors, something I did and passengers backed me up. This person demanded I buy them a new bike, which never happened. However, for the next few months, if he saw me in the city, he would get in front of me and ride very slowly, and stop when I stopped. This caused many people behind me to get angry, but it was not my fault. I remember the day after I had complained about this person, without my knowledge, several people were on board who saw what happened, they alighted and went to speak with this individual. I never saw him again.
Another thing, I’m cautious when waiting to cross the roads, even at lights or pedestrian/zebra crossing, as many motorists are too impatient and/or lazy to use their indicators. Many times, I have assumed correctly about a vehicle.
I’ve had people make assumptions about me just from conversations I’ve had. Many will assume the worst about me, then spread lies, this happened in 2015/18.
When I order take away food, most places will assume, everyone likes salt on their chips/fries, honestly, I don’t. Also will include ice in the drinks, again, not something I like. However, I am rarely asked if I want either.
I’m also a person who likes to keep to myself, however, others again, make assumptions that I’m up to no good, instead of asking questions.
This happened at a previous residence, where my housemates made assumptions about me, based on what the previous tenant had done, whom I never met.
Many people also assume one is married, then gets abusive when you correct them in saying you are single.
The main offenders are males.
We are all Human beings, and should be treated as such and as Individuals too. Just because someone is quiet and/or likes to spend time alone, does not mean they are up to no good.
I also find, when on the telephone, and you provide information to someone, rarely, will they confirm back to ensure what you have said, is what they have heard.
A couple of years ago, I requested information via email and gave the email address, however, never received the information. When I called back, I found out a letter had been left off, and was basically abused for it, despite me repeating the email address, the original call taker assumed I made a mistake.
My point of writing this blog is to educate about making assumptions.