Disclaimer: As usual, what is written below is my own personal opinion, and may vary from yours. It doesn’t mean to say that either is correct or incorrect, that’s what makes us all Humans.
A good reference is the tv show “Mother & Son.”
My late father was similar to Maggie.
I’m 57 and over that time, have been the victim of “Dirty Tricks.”
I will explain:
Many people will take 1 look at me and assume the worst about me, without trying to get to know me.
To get people against me, lies will be spread.
My Honest Opinion is because I’m a loner, it makes me an easy target, because most of the time those who tell the lies, will have witnesses, whereas I usually don’t.
In 1981, I was accused of touching the breast of a fellow student. To this day, I still say, if I did, it was accidental.
However, the “Victim” had witnesses to back up her story.
As a result, I was found guilty and punished:
12 Strokes of the Cane, yes, it was in use then, thankfully not now.
These girls did not feel my punishment was severe enough, and decided to play a joke on me.
This joke resulted in me almost dying, but they stopped me from becoming a Father. A 16 year old boy told he can’t procreate, hurts his ego very much.
When I was 14 years old, My First, And Only, Girlfriend, broke up with me.
I wanted to go talk to her, to hopefully see if we could rekindle the relationship.
However, I was told:
“Leave Her Alone, She Hates You, You Are Better Off Finding A Girl Who Will Love And Obey You.”
I did not agree with that statement, nor did I want to let her go, but because it was my father, accepted he knew best.
Honestly, He Didn’t.
To This Day, I regret not following my Heart and at least trying to talk to her.
In 1992, I started thinking about her from the second I woke up, until I fell asleep.
I told dad, however, his response was:
“Forget Her, She Is Married, With a Couple Of Children And Living At Leonay.
Leonay is located just north of Penrith NSW, Australia.
I since found out this information was incorrect.
In 1998, a workplace friendship ended, because others misunderstood me.
I was working with males, who all felt my friend and I were intimate, and even when I would deny it, this spurred them more, because they did not believe Males & Females could just be Friends.
This conflict, caused my friend and I to terminate our friendship.
However, someone decided to make things worse and told another friend of hers, who then spread these lies during a Drug Session.
Instead of coming to ask me if this was true or not, no.
This ex-friend, went to the Police and demanded an AVO (Apprehended Violence Order) against me.
When I found out, yes, was angry.
I had to organise a day off to be in court.
N.B. I was notified late the day before my court appearance, which made things worse.
In court, she had her Family’s Top Barrister, and I only had me.
Thankfully, it was a minor hearing. The main hearing was set down for a few weeks later.
I was put on Leave until this had been sorted, so I was unable to get any witnesses or talk to anyone.
Being a Bus Driver, I was banned from travelling on any buses from my area.
I was working in the same area I resided.
I was able to find a Solicitor, who took on my case.
On the day of the hearing, My Solicitor got up and requested some amendments, which were granted.
This ex-friend was also issued an AVO, and breached the order more than once. However, each time, I was unaware.
Because of this issue, I transferred depots.
To date, we have not been in contact, nor do I want anything to do with her.
I’ve had others who have resorted to dirty tricks to get rid of me.
When I was in a Higher Position (Temporary) someone saw me taking headache tablets one day and mistook them for harder, legal drugs, and went to my boss.
Despite a search of my personal belongings and me passing a Drug Test, I was ordered to attend counselling sessions.
Another time, a colleague decided to verbally abuse me in front of customers. I turned around to calm down and count. Unfortunately, because of where I was standing, this person made an assumption and contacted our Supervisor who arrived with medical assistance.
I was removed from duty without allowing me to explain and driven home.
Again, I was ordered to attend counselling. Thankfully, I was on full pay.
N.B. The person who made the assumptions, was very lazy and would spend over half the shift drinking coffee, instead of doing our job.
When I was finally allowed to return, was placed with someone else who told me, they did not believe what this other person spread about me.
Several months later, I was sent to a new location, however, my reputation had already been tarnished as the idiots I was assigned to work with, had been misinformed about me.
This caused lots of issues, and were part of why I accepted redundancy.
I was accused of sending emails to the bosses about the other staff, despite no evidence, I was kept in the dark about almost everything.
In 2015, I befriended a teen trans gurl, and despite neither of us seeking an intimate relationship. I hoped to learn from this gurl.
FYI: I DID NOT, NOR DO, WANT ANYTHING MORE THAN A FRIENDSHIP WITH THIS YOUNG LADY, WHO IS NOW IN HER 20’S.
FYI: Because she was a minor, there was no way in the world I would have allowed us to be alone in private until she turned 18.
Unfortunately, someone made the assumption I was lying then they told her vicious lies about me, which she then spread online.
I have tried to reconnect with this person to explain, however, she has disappeared.
N.B. I undergo Annual Police Checks plus also have my Working With Children Check Card, Plus write a legally Binding Document.
Because of what this twerp did to me, I demand written agreements from everyone and provide same too.
Recently I tested someone to see what they would do.
I won’t go into details, however, those involved became ice cold towards me, even more so.
Update: I was asked to leave, instead of being allowed a discussion about my Feelings & Safety Concerns.
In 2018 I became friends with a woman online. She was married.
Her sister assumed I wanted more than a friendship & sent me a warning message, telling my to stay away from her sister.
I showed this message to my friend who got upset with her sister
I was kicked out of her life.
I think about her at times & hope she is happy.
I’m sick of shallow, judgemental, insecure people. Most find it easier to tell lies than talk to others.
Most Males will resort to Dirty Tricks because they are competitive and want to win, and will stop at nothing to be “The Best”
You know what?
Those who resort to dirty tricks are not worth our time, because their tricks will be unravelled in time.
Anyone who resorts to Dirty Tricks is:
My advice, if someone tells you something, do your research, includes talking to those being lied about.
Education is the Key To Knowledge.
I apologise for the length of this post and how boring it is.
Wishing you all a Super Fantabulously Productive Month.