I’d like to begin by acknowledging the Traditional Owners of the land on which we meet today. I would also like to pay my respects to Elders past, present and emerging.
Disclaimer: As usual, what is written below is my own personal opinion, and may vary from yours. It doesn’t mean to say that either is correct or incorrect, that’s what makes us all Humans.
This blog may upset many people, but I feel I need to put my feelings in writing.
TP’s to me are Negative, Jealous, Insecure People who will try to Manipulate others, lying about others, or even being dramatical people.
I will admit, I have been a toxic person, and as such have lost valuable friends, but I was never told I was toxic.
As I’ve been treated badly by others, I now do the same thing, especially when someone refuses to accept LGBTIQA+ Humans, Transgenders are EQUALS.
Toxic People are everywhere, from Friends??????????? to Housemates, to Workplaces and even Public Transport users.
I will clarify that.
Recently I was sitting on a train, waiting for it to leave the city, when several people boarded, all loud and intoxicated, this was early afternoon.
A couple of them started abusing me, because I was sitting where they wanted to sit, but they also started abusing me because I am female.
I was told I was not welcome in this carriage and told to leave immediately, maybe go and find a man to marry and serve him, because that is the only thing women are good for.
N.B. I’m over 50, therefore unable to get pregnant, if I was Cisgender.
I’ve also had Toxic Housemates.
Back in 2011, after my father passed away, I bumped into an ex work colleague, and as I was in need of a new place, she offered me her spare room, which I accepted. Bad move.
I was banned from eating in my room, and only allowed to drink 1 cup of coffee in the morning, the rest of my time at home, must be spent in the common areas, i.e. Lounge Room, Kitchen, Dining Room.
I had to watch what she wanted on television and eat what she cooked.
The worst thing was, I had some days off from work, upon my return, I was disciplined by my Manager. My housemate had taken photos of my belongings and showed them to everyone and telling lies about me.
My Manager told me to not bring my personal life to work. I told him I had no idea what she had done, but I was still to blame.
I was a cleaner at the time, and took the advantage of days off to do a major clean up, I suspect she took the photos whilst I was out buying some lunch.
I also had 2 mobile (Cell) phones. 1 for personal, 1 for work. My Housemate breached my privacy by giving my manager my personal number. He didn’t realise she had not received my permission.
She would even tell me to stop breathing so loudly. I couldn’t help it.
She then decided to evict me, without any reason.
I was awoken an hour early, she illegally entered my locked bedroom. She had some others with her who all disallowed me saying anything. Again, I was blamed for everything.
I moved out whilst this other one was at work. She had packed my belongings up, incorrectly, some of the containers were very heavy, I had trouble trying to lift them.
However, as there was little to nil communication, I left $150 AUD for bills etc.
She continually harassed me for more money. I changed my number.
Anyway, I have had no contact with that person in almost 10 years.
I was lucky to find temporary accommodation with a friend, who is a true friend.
I’ve also had a Toxic Team Leader who refused to accept my choice of being a female, he would constantly harass me.
I was not made to feel like I part of the team, therefore I would stay by myself. The only time I was wanted, I used to drive to work on Friday nights, I was told to drive my TL to the local shopping mall so he could do his weekly grocery and alcohol shopping. I was against this but threatened if I did not.
I finally got the idea to park my car away from the depot so he would think I had travelled in by Public Transport.
I do have other people from my past, and present, who are toxic.
I used to share a house with 2 other Trans Females. I moved in, hoping to feel better about myself and to fit in, big mistake.
The main tenant, who still has not changed their information with the landlord, was strict.
I was only allowed 1 bath per week. I was not permitted to open my bedroom windows or door, whilst burning incense or candles, as she didn’t like it, yet, I had to look at the driveway, filled with broken down cars.
The other housemate was just as bad, she would ask a question then say I didn’t know what I was talking about. She knew more because she was an ex-Doctor. She also would constantly make negative comments about the food I would eat.
Living there caused severe depression, Suicidal Tendencies and Higher Anxiety too.
I recently attended an online meeting where the host talked about Toxicity.
I have since started removing toxic people from my social media pages, because we all should only have
Positive
Support
Winners in our lives.
As many of you know, I was the victim of a vicious hate campaign in 2018, but feel it started in 2015.
I have finally freed myself from that Toxic Environment, however, have still kept messages from the individual, “TransGurl Chris,” just in case.
My sister was toxic, not only towards me but my parents and she murdered both, in my opinion.
Her and the “TransGurl–Chris” are both at the top of my
Strongly Disliked Ladder.
In my opinion, Toxic People should be rounded up and sent to the middle of nowhere to be toxic with each other.
Please accept this advice:
The world is in turmoil currently, we should all be nice to each other, because you never know when a life may end.
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