Disclaimer: As usual, what is written below is my own personal opinion, and may vary from yours. It doesn’t mean to say that either is correct or incorrect, that’s what makes us all Humans.
Many people confuse both as one in the same, however, they are 2 very separate things.
I know, because from the age of 4, when I knew I was a gurl, I was confused.
Most children are brainwashed by their Families growing up to be “Normal,” but what is normal?
My Opinion of Normal:
Being Happy,
Living Safe,
Enjoyable,
Stress free lives, and being able to love whom our generous hearts desire, not what society dictates.
As long as both are 18+.
Just because someone identifies as one gender, does not mean they want to date someone of their assigned birth gender.
Some transition to female and exclusively date males, or to male and date females.
Some transition to female but still prefer females, or to male and date males.
Some are Bi-Sexual, or even Pan-Sexual.
I will explain what Pan-Sexual is: For one it is not dating pans. From what I understand, a person does not see gender, but instead attracted to a persons mind. If anyone reading this disagrees, please advise me, but this is from information gathered over the years.
Growing up was a confusing time for me,
I was taught boys date girls, vice versa, but boys didn’t date boys or girls date girls, and heaven forbid, weirdo, freaks or perverts (I totally despise that term, especially about Transgenders).
I had an amazing girlfriend who for pre-teens, we loved each other, exactly what type, who knows, but our families were planning our wedding, we were still around 5 years old.
Unfortunately, because I was assigned male at birth, and my brainwashed mindset said I couldn’t be a gurl but still date girls, I became an introvert, because I felt “Different.”
I honestly believed to be a gurl, I had to date boys, as I was very young, all I wanted was to fit in.
That never happened, instead, was bullied, tormented and viciously assaulted.
This made things much worse for me, which resulted in me spending more and more time alone.
Unbeknown to others, I was also being molested by an older relative. This caused further problems for me, because I blamed myself for this.
I started thinking I was a faggot, especially after my 1st girlfriend broke up with me.
As this was the 1970’s and a minor, I was heavily controlled by my father, he decided what I did and who I saw.
Finally, at 17, I was working for a well known department store and happened to come across a book one day about a woman who had transitioned to a man. I then realised I was not alone.
It took me several more years to find support groups in the city I was residing.
I then found out Gender Identity and Sexual Orientation are 2 very separate things.
I would like to suggest to every winner reading this, please respect boundaries.
Please Never Assume Anything.
Education Is The Quay To Knowledge.
Asking Genuine Questions To Clarify Is Best.
Finally, Hope you laugh at this, but currently
I identify as an Asexual TransBian.
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