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Disclaimer: As usual, what is written below is my own personal opinion, and may vary from yours. It doesn’t mean to say that either is correct or incorrect, that’s what makes us all Humans.
I’m not an expert on this subject, but have been in many workplace relationships, so I know a bit about the pitfalls.
Each will start great, like other relationships.
However, over time, the couple will invariably have arguments which can spill over to the workplace.
This in turn causes splits with other staff members, which can cause safety issues, and/or productivity losses.
In the 1990’s, I befriended a colleague, and we became close. We never got physical, despite what others would assume.
This friendship ended, because others spread lies about both of us.
Neither of us were able to talk things through in private, every time we went to talk, someone would insist on being a witness and would interfere.
I ended up transferring away, because of all the assumptions being made.
My transfer came through 30 minutes after this ex-friend left for some leave. My last day there was the Friday before she returned.
I don’t know if she was told where I went or not, knowing my former colleagues, they would have told her lies. To date, we have not been in contact since.
I heard, she had 4 children to 4 different fathers, whether that is true or not, I don’t know.
The next workplace relationship I had, was twins, Yes, Twins.
These young ladies worked at the same place I did, along with their father.
Honestly, I didn’t want to date either, as their names were the same as my blister’s.
Unfortunately, I had no other choice, they both liked me.
My apprehension was their father worked there and we had a 20+ year difference, not that I was worried as they were in their 20’s but I was concerned about what their father would do, when he found out.
Neither lady cared.
We sort of saw each other in secret, together.
I felt uncomfortable and scared of losing my job, even though I hated, it was still a job.
Someone told their father about them dating me, he went right off at me.
I was fired on the spot, without the chance to explain.
I heard later, the lady with my blisters middle name, had had a baby at age 16, she was now 22. Her sister had left to work for a major international company.
I have not had any contact with any of them since, nor want to.
These are just 2 examples of how workplace relationships can fail and the consequences.
Don’t get me wrong, I support them, but only when the personal life does not interfere in the work life, but when personal lives interfere in work lives, 1 needs to transfer.
My best piece of advice to everyone reading this:
Always when starting a WR, think about if its worth it, but also if you do, have a written agreement to cover both of you, but ensure you have many copies, all signed as originals.
I hope I have educated you Amazing, Influential, Inspiring